I was "MARKED" for having a wordly boyfriend. That boyfriend eventually became my husband and we've been together for 14 years now. We've had bad times but have managed to work them all out and in the end he's the best friend I ever had. He's the only one I know that I can depend on 100%.
So in my case - trading the "love of the brothers and sisters" for the love of a "wordly man" was the best thing I ever did!
.........and he won't whisper about me behind my back - he'll tell it to my face! I like that approach much better as there's no secrets or hypocracy.