Hi Jan,
I agree about not holding a grudge that's what letting go is all about.
Empathy by its very definition tho,doesn't belong to part of the forgiving process....it's not understanding and insight.
Empathy is the imaginative projection of a subjective state into an object so as to experience vicariously the feelings,thoughts and experience of another.
Infusing oneself with the perpetrator is a heavy emotional investment,and not at all necessary to the healing and forgiveness process and actually wastes energy that can be better used for self.
I know many in the mh field who use this stance,with very positive results.
Understanding and insight are not necessarily the product from having empathy. These come with self exploration,and working thru issues. Tina
I agree about not holding a grudge that's what letting go is all about.
Empathy by its very definition tho,doesn't belong to part of the forgiving process....it's not understanding and insight.
Empathy is the imaginative projection of a subjective state into an object so as to experience vicariously the feelings,thoughts and experience of another.
Infusing oneself with the perpetrator is a heavy emotional investment,and not at all necessary to the healing and forgiveness process and actually wastes energy that can be better used for self.
I know many in the mh field who use this stance,with very positive results.
Understanding and insight are not necessarily the product from having empathy. These come with self exploration,and working thru issues. Tina