I take issue with this aspect,'forgiveness issue prompted participants
to EMPATHIZE with the offender...."
No,that's not right and doesn't truly benefit the victims.
Forgivness means coming to terms with our rage and anger-relieving
ourselves of the burden of carrying it around.Having "empathy" is stated as being the opposite of "holding a grudge" Tina.
Empathy is having understanding and insight ..... accepting that we ourselves can do
the wrong thing also.By having such empathy does not mean you should renew a dangerous relationship
and put yourself in danger. On the contrary, by having such insight you would be better
able to understand how to keep yourself away from similar situations in the future.It is when we are involved in holding a grudge that we are so preoccupied by this that
we are more likely to repeat the type of relationship.JanG
to EMPATHIZE with the offender...."
No,that's not right and doesn't truly benefit the victims.
Forgivness means coming to terms with our rage and anger-relieving
ourselves of the burden of carrying it around.Having "empathy" is stated as being the opposite of "holding a grudge" Tina.
Empathy is having understanding and insight ..... accepting that we ourselves can do
the wrong thing also.By having such empathy does not mean you should renew a dangerous relationship
and put yourself in danger. On the contrary, by having such insight you would be better
able to understand how to keep yourself away from similar situations in the future.It is when we are involved in holding a grudge that we are so preoccupied by this that
we are more likely to repeat the type of relationship.JanG