Hi Jan,
Exactly!! That's why terminating association/communication (after resolving the anger) can be important in forgiveness. Like you said,it's a big world out there, those who forget the past are doommed to repeat it. No one needs toxic abusers in their lives.
So forgiveness isn't about forgetting,just neutralizing the angry emotions that went with the event. And moving on.
The abuser sees that is the consequence of their action.
And that's why I think empathy does more harm then good as it promotes an emotional connection that is definitely not to the victims good. Thanks for the input,hugs,Tina
Exactly!! That's why terminating association/communication (after resolving the anger) can be important in forgiveness. Like you said,it's a big world out there, those who forget the past are doommed to repeat it. No one needs toxic abusers in their lives.
So forgiveness isn't about forgetting,just neutralizing the angry emotions that went with the event. And moving on.
The abuser sees that is the consequence of their action.
And that's why I think empathy does more harm then good as it promotes an emotional connection that is definitely not to the victims good. Thanks for the input,hugs,Tina