Eleswhere the only thing I can say that helps,,,,,,,,,,,,, is time. It takes time to realize you can not make people change and love you like you want to be loved. If they don't do it freely , it is not worth it.
My dad , really started shunning me a year ago when I refused to go to a circuit assembly. But my dad really doesnt love me enough to have me in his life, even when I was the perfect daughter and elder's wife. He just has tried for years to cut all ties with me,,,,,,,,, long story on why,, but in a nutshell he wants to forget about my mother, he has a new family, and wants to erase any traces of the old. He does this with everything in his life.
When I came to this forum, I was leaving the only thing other than my hub and children that gave me stability. It was hard, I cried alot , I was hurt so bad by many things.
So many of you took me under your wings and helped me along . I grew strong......... and I learned how to get along......... lol , i know that is a great song,,,,,,, isnt it......... But true.
Being here , having stranger who became friends gave me courage to let my Daddy go. I know deep down in my heart I still love him, but it is not the same. My life is fuller and better now that I let the strings that held us together go. I was the only one holding on and I got tired........ I got sick and tired of trying and realized that I could be happier without him.
It still hurts,,,,,,,,, but I had to accept what was not mine to change. I didnt stop loving him, he stopped loving me. I didnt shun him,,,,,,,, he shunned me. It was all his choice really and I had to accept that, and move on.
You should go back and read some of my post about my dad.......... I am very angry. I was very very angry...... to the point of wanting revenge. Now it has settled down , and I am more at peace with myself.
Hang in there Eleswhere,,,,,,,, time is the best healer really.