A few weeks ago, a JW sister came to my door by herself and started into her presentation... "we're sharing a positive hope from the Bible" and I just smiled.
She asked if I had ever heard of JW's and here I am in my wife-beater shirt with my armband tattoo in plain view and I said "I am one of JW's actually... I just haven't been too involved lately"
She was taken for a loop at first and I asked who was out in the ministry today and recognized some of the names. She was new to the area and could tell I was not and eventually she could tell I was more than just a "weak" one.
(It was sort of funny because this nice young lady still knew her "place" and that her "measily" elder's wife position was trumped even by my inactive status simply because I was a man.. just stupid really)
I declined to tell her why I was not attending, but just that I had personal reasons and that I was very comfortable with those reasons and my not attending. I always try to leave the impression that I feel good about my present position and not sad or guilty.
She told me the meeting times "in case i changed my mind". I could tell she was never warned about me because of being so new to the area and that was nice. I guess she would have been filled in when she went back to the cargroup, but I'm sure she would be perplexed at what they would say versus what she perceived from talking with me first hand. Basically, I was pleasant and wished her well and stayed away from anything controversial.
Of course, 2 elders showing up at your door wanting to have "a little chat" or to "help me get back to meetings" is a different kettel of fish. Elders are a devious and deceptive lot, and many times I wonder if they can even appreciate their own dishonesty. In view of this, I have no problem pacifying them with unexpected dishonest responses or statements of my own and sending them on their way as quickly as possible.
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