I look at Jw's and ExJw's as alcholics and recovering alcholics. You can be ruined by addiction. You can be ruined by religion.
For me in my family I had to take control of my life. (After all I am responsibile for it.) That meant a choice between constant gossip and backbiting, or standing up to it, and calling a lie a lie. I have never met so many people so ready to accept a lie. And I cut ties with prejudice.
I have met some people who have no idea what "Unconditional love is." What can you say; Everything about me, and how I live is foriegn to them.
So I just give them a hug. I tell them that they are free to make choices. Then I ask 2 questions. "What do you need." and "How can I help you?" Thats all. With that many people are able to help themselves, free themselves, and begin to learn who they are.
I don't know how to balance a group like the Jw's if you will not submit. Yes, you can slip by, hide or pretend to be someone, or something your not. But I can't. I AM who I AM. I have no desire to be someone or something else. I love where I am in life and love what I do. I wish the same for everyone. And I hope you accept that you can have it all in life; So long as it is for your life. Try to change a JW? Instead I recomend going to a park and try to convert a tree. At least it has use for your breath.
Black Propaganda...Well, East Germany fell like a heart attack. Such is the fate of all organizations built on fear and propaganda. Where and when we don't know.
What would I say? I just did. Welcome all newbie's