Thanks Nathan, libra, Cowboy, SS, All
The conflict starts when I leave the group and get some recovery behind me. Now when I associate with a Witness, they are still back there in the behavior of dispensing of personal boundaries and invariably they will step over one of my lines and now I will notice it. I notice it and I do not accept it anymore.
One of my JW mother's favorite violations of my boundaries occurred when she would talk about people who were not there, gossip. The first time I stopped her when she was trying to gossip to me about someone she just looked at me and said, "What's wrong with you?".
The Witnesses are so conditioned to the elimination of personal boundaries that they do not even know they are doing it. That is one reason they are disliked by the world so much. They insult people without even being aware they are doing it. They think they are hated because of God or Jesus. The truth is they just piss people off.
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