Francois	Re: personal boundaries
	This is an excellent post. And it makes very valid observations. Compare it to the absence of boundaries of any kind in an abusive family. My family of origin was and is utterly dysfunctional. There were no boundaries. As a teenager, my parents read my mail, listened in on my phone conversations, told me how to cut my hair, how to spend my time, and on and on and on. My father could and did come home almost every night at least tipsy. But if he smelled any beer on my mother's breath, she "smelled like a brewery." And, "You've been out running the road with Shirley again haven't you?" He was a totally fearful little man, afraid of everything and everyone. He hid this behind this rough, bluff, exterior. And, he was the coward I always thought he was. The WTBS is just like the abuser in a dysfunctional family. And you know what? You can get the abuser to stop, to come to a screeching halt - just like you can with any other coward - by one very well aimed, powerful punch right in the nose, delivered with all the strength you've got. That is, by establishing or re-establishing your boundaries in no uncertain terms. I've never seen a coward ever attempt anything else once the boundaries were set. So how do we apply that to the WTBTS? francois
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