Larc,Great ideals Larc. Every change the society makes is another flip-flop for opposers to gripe about, so I can't see things changing without legal pressures. If this is how you were raised, then I commend you for breaking from your mental/spiritual bonds.
Don't tell teenagers that they can't ask someone out for a date unless marriage is on their mind.
I'm assuming that the reasoning behind this is that "God's people" are happy creatures and compatibility is a sure thing? The whole point of a DATE is to let the couple determine compatibility. Heck, why not throw out dating and have on-the-spot proposals?