gravedancer	Re: The victim
	Celtic, I am not attacking you either. However, when someone is sitting feeling as though they have no answers and are anxious/depressed they are victims of their own state of mind - the worst kind of victim there is. In saying that I am not condemning them or being insensitive - but trying to point out the reality of the situation. when we are in that state (and most of us get to be in that state at some point) we cannot see for ourselves. Yes, I probably would have felt as though someone saying what I had to say was "insensitive" too when I was in that state. "Just providing a hearing ear" or "a shoulder to cry on" furthers the victim mentality because it legitimizes it in the mind of the victim. By being the sob-rag you are in effect allowing the victim to say to themselves: "others see me for the victim too and they agree I am one and they are confirming that my life is worthless". What alternative do you have to offer?
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