"Well it doesn't matter how you feel inside, you know? It's what shows up on the surface that counts. That's what my mother taught me. Take all your bad feelings and push them down, all the way down, past your knees until you're almost walking on them. And then you'll fit in . . . and happiness will follow."
Simpsons, Season 1, Ep. 2 (or 3, memory kinda fuzzy...)
That's my mother on law's philosophy in a nutshell!