dear Terry...
I wasn't saying that she would feel shame for what was written...but she might feel that she shouldn't "open up" to anyone...
She may have felt very comfortable turning to you(eventually) for support in her descision to leave and for possable advice in the steps to take in makeing her exit. You did/do come off as a source of help generally...but this thread kind of seems like you used her "confidence" as a platform for your rant against the WBTS machine...and EVERYONE inclined was included in the analysis...and encouraged to give their two cents.
love michelle