Terry
For this lady to even have this much discussion with you shows the fondness and respect she had and still has for you........but unfortunately your thinking mind would rock her world completely and she isnt giving.
Do you think some people get to an age where they give up and just think this is my lot and its what I am sticking with?
I think the world she has created for herself is in its way comfortable and secure, and gives her enough of what she wants in life to cling to it. She may always think, she might have questions, but she has developed the switch off mechanism that prevents her going any further.
Good on you for your honesty.