Welcome Cognac. You have racked up a good number of posts in the last few days.
I think you have hit on one of the biggest problems with the JW's. They try not to deny you an honorable way to leave and use intimidation to prevent you from asking reasonable questions or using your conscience. This, in itself, is powerful evidence that they are wrong.
Fading seems to be the popular choice. I DA'd and found it to be liberating. I have a lot of family inside, but they aren't that close and I was disturbed by their self rightiousness and toxic influence. I hope I can someday repair those ties under different circumstances. It's your choice, just feel free to take your time.