Hello everyone, Even though I sucked at the service thing and public speaking because I was terribly shy I have noticed that one thing I have carried with me when I left was the defense mode. When I first met my boyfriend I found myself challenging his beliefs, and religious preference. We had alot in common and both loved to talk religion. It took me while to realise I was challenging him, and I was quite defensive, and would be ready with a counter attack. Funny cause I didn't believe as a jw anymore ,but the tecnique was still there. Now when we talk I try to erase the former beliefs, and battle mode so I can listen with an open mind. Take care,
terry
terry