A good reminder Larc. I know the things that convinced me most (ie. that I couldn't just shut off or dismiss) came from calm moderate balanced people and websites.
The ones that seemed to just be a bit 'nasty' weren't very convincing to me and made it easy to label as hateful apostates without taking in any of the information they presented
however right it was.
Trouble is, for the people on the other side, they often have a log of anger that they want and need to express and being a real hot-head myself I know how hard it is to surpress this. I guess we should count to 10 before posting anything aggressive to others.