Hi Garybuss,
Thank you for clarifying you previous post. Apologies if I came on a bit strong - I wasn't sure where you were coming from first of all but I am in full agreement with what you are saying about being cautious of what may happen.
In my post I was also urging a degree of caution since ultimately a person has to make their own mind up on something & if someone else tries to move them in a direction, or go too fast then this can cause a backlash.
I see what you are saying about the COC thing & it potentially leading to difficulties. I guess the only thing Sleepy can do is assess his & his wife's circumstances & see what is best to do next.
Hopefully no bad feelings - its just being newly out of the society I guess I was worried that you were getting a bit personal whereas actually you were only out to caution.
Yours,
Steven.