Howdy,
My husband (56) was raised by 2nd generation jw's. Good people in a small community. He and his brother's only friends were when they went to assemblies (not many kids back then.) He definitely had a double life, his brother - no. My husband's always been labeled "spiritually weak, stiff necked, etc." And true - he fought the arrangement his whole life, and basically did what he wanted, just quietly in other towns. His brother is a long-time elder. None of either of their grown kids are in the WTBTS (5).
Also, the kids that they did grow up with - most have been df'd, reinstated, df'd, removed, left, etc. His brother is a rare bird.
The exodus has been going on for a long time. The ones who stayed this long are beginning to realize they've given their lives away for the most part.....and have no retirement.....and are getting old and tired.
The kids are keener in judgement - "this doesn't make any sense." Good for them.
waiting