STILL IN LOVE- Welcome to the board friend. You certainly do have a dilemma don't you ? Well, all I can say is I was married to a witness woman for 19 years - and nothing I did in the way of being nice, normal, or polite was ever enough for her. Witnesses are trained to judge you and have an opinion on you - based only on what they are told by the Watchtower society , not the Bible. It is a "patriarchal" system they believe in - and you are right the men are told to be " heads " of their family - so if you are an independent woman , that will not set well with you . Your husband will be trained by the Witnesses to not treat you as equal, but inferior , especially mentally. It is how they roll.
For the sake of any future children you would have with this man - Be informed that at their Service Meeting in September of 2007 , they were told to ONLY READ the Watchtower societies publications when doing research on things important to them . So this might explain why you have good reason to see your boyfriend is " narrow minded". They aren't allowed outside research other than the witness info ! So- you can see you won't get any input from him if you want to raise your children with cultural experiences and be learning about different cultures.
So- these are a few things to consider. As you stated , it certainly is your choice to pursue a long term with him- but I guarantee you - you will be forced to make more sacrifices for him , than he will be willing to make for you. The Jehovah's Witness religion is one that traps, imprisons, and controls it's members from outside influences - even their non-believing wives or husbands. So think carefully about your decisions friend, we are always here on the board if you want to vent or talk ! Peace out, Mr. Flipper