Does she have jw's over to the house? does she go on the wt site? does she ask you to do what she will not?

I am a ubm never been jw, here's how it works in my house though many would disagree and yes, it will turn into WW111 for a short while- if he leaves any wt literature out I will leave out the most offensive (to him) anti witness (called apostate by some) literature in plain site, Should he EVER have the nerve to bring one of those people into my home I would have Wiccans, apostates, and any other most offensive group of people (in his mind) here in no time flat, I don't care if I would have to pay them to come! They cannot have it both ways in my opinion. They cannot ask of us what they are not willing to do themselves!

After a time the dust settles and you learn the new dance, avoidance, when you need a little peace. Doesn't solve the problem but a jw who is not ready to care more about truth than 'the truth' will not ever see the light anyway. It is possible to manage a strange balance of life or should I say roller coaster? A fine line of some good times interspersed with huge jw battles followed by silence or just a bad, politeness. The big pink elephant follows you everywhere.

Hi Wings...

Sure, no problem, I am new to JWD so you might not be too familiar with my posts...

I was a JW for 24 years.. Went to Bethel, was a Pioneer, special Pioneer, MS, elder, Gilead, and Missionary. I made my decsion to exit 2 weeks ago...

No kids.... With my theocratic career, no need for them. (or so I thought)

A@G

All I am going to say is...NOT FAIR!  You deserve to have your opinions, feelings friends, etc.  So she wanted to throw the key board across the room, Huh?

What a brat, what unlike Christian behavior!  Stand your ground, you are a human too, no devout JW should ever behave like this, but I know they do.

I am going to send you a PM regarding my Mom and Dads relationship....please watch for it.

r.

Wish I could be more encouraging to you.  You have gone full circle, Bethel, Gilead etc.  I, too, was at Bethel in '69-'74, married there (officated by Nathan Knorr),, left to start family life with full good expectations,,my husband became inactive by late 70s, involving several moves for work, I continued a little more meetings, w/small children. 

We never argued till by mid-80's, only because I was disagreeing with the organization.  So it became difficult-to-impossible to have much conversation, only small talk.  I thought he would welcome a review as he was inactive.  He would try to go back to meetings here & there but the kids were getting older, not indoctrinated, so hated to go.  

In '94 we divorced and 2 mos later he remarried and they divorced a year later.  The kids are grown, rarely have contact with him but they say he still tries to speak JW'ese to them.  I don't know what the rate of divorce is for such cases of an xJW w/a remaining JW spouse, but I expect much more that half.  However, I have read here of a few successful cases.  My pride is that none of my children were ever baptized and are mind free of JWdom, and 4 of the 5 have completed college and the 5th will next year. 

Hey  i am in same positon as you.  i have 3 children 2 at home. Oddly enough the oldest who does not live with us had decieded to return to the wts

Living with someone whose beleifs you know and dislike is difficult

You will likely have a hard time i wish you well

Regards David

Hey  i am in same positon as you.  i have 3 children 2 at home. Oddly enough the oldest who does not live with us had decieded to return to the wts

Living with someone whose beleifs you know and dislike is difficult

You will likely have a hard time i wish you well

Regards David

     If she is determined to stay in, than I would say make a clean break as quickly as possible. If you have hopes of staying together, I would sit her down and make one final attempt to get her to listen to reason, explain what you've learned in as calm and loving a way as possible, then let her make up her mind.  In my opinion, a happy marriage between a half-hearted witness and an unbeliever may be possible, but a happy marriage between a zealot and an unbeliever probably isn't.  

     My wife and I were together for two years after I let her know I didn't believe this was the truth, and those two years were agony. My regret is that I didn't leave immediately when I realized that having a happy relationship had become impossible. Don't go through with years of unhappiness (on both sides), just for it to end in bitterness anyway years down the road. You have a lot of life left ahead of you. Don't waste any of it.