Ashy alias "Saucy Baby" said:
And don't get bogged down in too much psychology-this is more detrimental than denial. If you analyze too much, you let everything negative just fester.---------------------------------Couldn't agree more with the above statement. I think the human mind is deeply complex and complicated, but the reasons we "hurt" are not that difficult to understand. Mainly, I look for the *pattern* of my behavior that brings on the sadness, whether it's something I physically do or just in the way I think. Then I try to break that pattern and quit repeating it. Not always easy to do. It's a lot more therapeutic to go do something you enjoy or find rewarding than crack another book about your psychological condition. I'm not saying it's not helpful to have a good grasp of your own personal psychology, but once you do it's good to do things that feed your spirit and make you happy. MegaDude (who after reading two large boxes full of self-help books and listening to hundreds of tapes on psychology and self-esteem now goes sailing, cooks, takes classes, works out, watches movies, and chatting with the great folks on this board.)"The God that comes before skepticism may bear little resemblence to the God that comes after."M. Scott Peck (The Road Less Traveled)
And don't get bogged down in too much psychology-this is more detrimental than denial. If you analyze too much, you let everything negative just fester.---------------------------------Couldn't agree more with the above statement. I think the human mind is deeply complex and complicated, but the reasons we "hurt" are not that difficult to understand. Mainly, I look for the *pattern* of my behavior that brings on the sadness, whether it's something I physically do or just in the way I think. Then I try to break that pattern and quit repeating it. Not always easy to do. It's a lot more therapeutic to go do something you enjoy or find rewarding than crack another book about your psychological condition. I'm not saying it's not helpful to have a good grasp of your own personal psychology, but once you do it's good to do things that feed your spirit and make you happy. MegaDude (who after reading two large boxes full of self-help books and listening to hundreds of tapes on psychology and self-esteem now goes sailing, cooks, takes classes, works out, watches movies, and chatting with the great folks on this board.)"The God that comes before skepticism may bear little resemblence to the God that comes after."M. Scott Peck (The Road Less Traveled)