I grew up in a family where dad was not a JW and mom was; what hell on earth that was.  I married a non-JW but I was not a committed JW.  My advice, stay away from any committed JWs; they will expect you to become one and/or their family will.  It will not be worth it.

Blondie

Sure seems to be a lot of non-jdubs dating active jdubs.

His # 1 priority will be the jehovah's witness organization.  As my wife tells me,,  she loves jehovah more than she loves me. 

You will always play second fiddle to the jw corporation. 

What if you have kids?  will you object to your husband raising them as jw's?  If they need a blood transfusion,, will you allow your husband to withhold live saving medical treatment?

If your kids grow to be hardcore jws, they may shun you as an unbeliever.

At the very least they wouldn't be as close to you as to their jw dad.

You will also be under pressure from your husband to become a jw as he will be under pressure to convert you.

I'm married to a j-dub, however I no longer believe in this cult.  My marriage is a battle and I think I will ultimately lose my wife because of her beliefs.

Run like hell from this relationship.  An old friend of mine(you know who you are )   told me to reconsider my marriage,, I wish I had listened.

My dad became a Jehovah Jumpbug two years after he married my mother. She never liked it. He made her go to meetings many times and our family traveled for conventions every year. Mom always had to go to the conventions. She was a slave to him. There was never any affection in our home even between my parents. When my mom died, my dad never grieved.

I have to agree with other posters, if he is commited, you should get out. 

LindaLu and fiveangels:

The Jehovah's Witnesses religion demands exclusive loyalty from its members.  If your boyfriends become committed members, their loyalties will be divided.  You see, JWs are taught that it's a sin to marry another non-JW.  There will be consequences for them in the congregation if they continue their relationships with you.  They will eventually have to choose between continuing their relationships with you and becoming members in good standing in the congregation.  If they choose their relationship with you over the religion, there's hope.  If they don't, you are in for some tough times.  They will be allowed to remain members of the church even if they continue to be with you, but they will be constantly looked down upon.  Expect pressure to convert to their religion.  The congregation will view you as a mistake that needs to be remedied.  There are several non-JW members of this forum married to JWs who will be able to share their stories with you.  Think long and hard about what to do next.  Welcome to the forum.

Seriously,

Why are there so many new posters that are non-dubs and dating active dubs?

Or is someone out there just yanking our chain?

On the other hand, maybe this is a sign that things aren't what they seem to be among the 'happiest people on earth'.   

And, there's another phenomenon I often saw, when a young man left the JW organization but later got a girlfriend or married, he'd get her totally into the organization, then eventually leave the organization again "and" the girl or wife.  Ironic!!

LindaLu...good advice from all on the board so far......nothing more I can add to YOU..... however.....

five angels:  Welcome to JWD forum.    Heartwrenching first post.  I hope you will keep posting.  Please start a new thread (new topic) and tell us more about yourself.  We welcome you with open arms and want to know about you and will encourage you the best way we can.  There are a lot of great folks here.

Attempting to stay on topic, the advise given to LindaLu by some of the other posters applies to you as well. 

"gettng caught"  WTF?  The good thing is he has finally ealized now that he cant have his cake and eat it too.  Better you know that now than later.  Too bad he had stomp on your heart for him to realize that.

5 angels  ...hon, you have already lost him.  You don't say how long you dated or how old you are.  But he went against the JW religion rules by dating you in the first place.  IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT.  He already has a mistress, her name is "Jehovah's Witnesses" and he is indebted to her.  You would always be the "other woman" if you had married him.  JW comes first, everything else second.  If he gets married, he needs to marry a fellow JW so they can be miserable slaves to that religion together.

Move on, tough as it is.  (By the by, I would not date a JW now because I am on the way out of the organization, or at least will never be "whole hearted" to it again.  If I find a nice non-JW girl who loves me for what I am and not because I have a title in a man made religion, then I am going to date and/or marry a non-JW girl and get the hell out...never thought I would ever think THAT let alone admit it here)

SnakesInTheTower (of the not dating a JW Sheep  Class)