Haha, try to relax. My daughter is nearly fourteen and she has been to a few dances. As far as with a specific boy, no. She goes with her girlfriends then see's who will ask her to dance. But she doesn't get all giddy about boys. GOOD GIRL...MOMMA TAUGHT HER WELL! LOL! Okay, I digress.
Definetely meet the boy AND his parents. If either kid has a cellphone, get his number and get his parents numbers...both cell and landline. I sometimes even ask for email address in case they are omn dialup and on their computer. Make sure your daughters cell is fully charged and instruct her to never turn it off for any reason. And to always answer it in a timely manner. Tell her you won't tolerate having to leave a voice message.
Whoever picks her up, whether it's the parents or his older sibling, GET THE LICENSE PLATE NUMBER.
And I'm sure you have told her this already: Trust is the worst thing you can break between us. It is like a fragile vase that, when one tries to piece it back together, realizes it will be very difficult, if not impossible. Trust and respect of that trust IS the bond between us. I tell my daughter that it is partly her responsibility to respect that trust and not to break it. If she feels, at any time, she may be in a position that it may crack (the vase), to think it through and recall exactly what respecting our bond will mean in either consequences or rewards.
Let her go but take all the preventative measures and give her firm guidelines.
They/ we are/ were only kids once. These days in THEIR eyes and mind, is very important in many ways as far as self esteem goes.
Good luck!
sKally