Brenda,Warm hugs for this bad period in your life. I went through the life ending periods with both my parents some years ago. It was extremely draining. I cared for both of them till the end in my own home. It certainly deteriorated my own health though. Your Mom caring for your Dad will weaken her further. I think this is why so many spouses pass on shortly after their mates die. Warm Hugs,Balsam