Thanks for the input all.
Last night on the way home from work, I stopped into a book store and picked up a copy of "Toxic Parents" for my wife.
I come in the door and my wife greets me with an envelope. Her parents sent us a card and cheque for our anniversary. A week late, but the first time they've remembered in eight years.
After 8 months of the silent treatment, they picked last night to "reestablish contact". Well we talked about it a bit this morning and I told her about what her parents were saying to others.
She was quite shocked that this had been since October. I told her that I was worried when I had heard about this that she didn't feel comfortable talking to me about it anymore and she just shrugged.
She said she could see it coming and didn't put too much weight in it. I had printed off that post on the "narcissistic mother" a while back and gave it to her. Since then her mother had re-established contact with other daughter, the "golden child" so my wife was just waiting for the other shoe to drop.
She has a good friend network now and receives alot of praise from her best friend's mother who sadly in the past year has shown more appreciation for my wife then her biological mother did her whole life.
I left the book for her to read, but I'm not sure if she will or not.
We're coming up on summer and I think this is their attempt to reestablish contact for the grandkids to come visit. She agreed but said she wasn't going to go down.
I reminded her she said that last year too and still went. I refused to drive down or use our vacation budget on them so they paid for her trip down. we had to pay for the trip back though, nice huh?
I told her that she can go if she likes, but the kids won't be going. They'll need to prove to me that they can handle a relationship with their daughter before I'll let them have any further influence on our children.
Last night on the way home from work, I stopped into a book store and picked up a copy of "Toxic Parents" for my wife.
I come in the door and my wife greets me with an envelope. Her parents sent us a card and cheque for our anniversary. A week late, but the first time they've remembered in eight years.
After 8 months of the silent treatment, they picked last night to "reestablish contact". Well we talked about it a bit this morning and I told her about what her parents were saying to others.
She was quite shocked that this had been since October. I told her that I was worried when I had heard about this that she didn't feel comfortable talking to me about it anymore and she just shrugged.
She said she could see it coming and didn't put too much weight in it. I had printed off that post on the "narcissistic mother" a while back and gave it to her. Since then her mother had re-established contact with other daughter, the "golden child" so my wife was just waiting for the other shoe to drop.
She has a good friend network now and receives alot of praise from her best friend's mother who sadly in the past year has shown more appreciation for my wife then her biological mother did her whole life.
I left the book for her to read, but I'm not sure if she will or not.
We're coming up on summer and I think this is their attempt to reestablish contact for the grandkids to come visit. She agreed but said she wasn't going to go down.
I reminded her she said that last year too and still went. I refused to drive down or use our vacation budget on them so they paid for her trip down. we had to pay for the trip back though, nice huh?
I told her that she can go if she likes, but the kids won't be going. They'll need to prove to me that they can handle a relationship with their daughter before I'll let them have any further influence on our children.