More drama between my mom and I

OMG .. My mother just sent me this email. It was the only aunt I had that wasn't a freaking JW.  I have tried to contact her but her contact info wouldn't work that I had. I tried to ask family for her number but they wouldn't give it to me (or ignored me rather).  I was going to try to contact her so I could have someone to talk to and she freaking died.

And why the hell couldn't they tell me TUESDAY so I could have gone to the funeral or something??!  I get this Friday AFTERNOON so I couldn't go ...

So here's a reply after I asked why she didn't tell me sooner:

Sorry about your aunt!!! Typical JDUB BS!

nj

((((Renee)))))

I am so sorry for the loss of your Aunt. You have every right to be angry about the way the news was kept from you until it was too late for you to attend her funeral, and to be given this a a "reason"

((((((((((((((((reneeisorym))))))))))))))))))))))

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. 

I don't know why the absurdity of their actions continue to shock me, but it does.  What a horrible and unloving thing to do to a person!

Thanks so much -- its great to know someone understands.

I am so mad that I can't be sad about my aunt!!  The only freaking aunt I had that wasn't a JW.

What a cruel thing to do to you.

I'm sorry.

Warlock 

Sorry to hear about your aunt and all the other crap that your family is putting you through, real Christian like??

abr

I am so sorry for the lose of your Aunt.  It never ceases to amaze me how cruel the JW religion and its members are.  I didn't find out about my grandmother's death either until it was in the paper.  The love they speak of is just a smoke screen for thier power and control over the publishers.  

Leslie

Gee I thought I already was, if this isn't your bad side, what is?  Some real tender affection toward you?  Sorry about my sarcasism, but this conduct makes me sick.

abr 

So she did this knowingly, thought it through to the point where she timed the information perfectly so that you would not be able to go to your non-JW aunt's funeral.  It's sickening how they do this.  It's even more sickening how they try to justify and make it sound as though it was the right decision.

Your mom is clearly terrified of being caught communicating with you and being disfellowshipped for it.  It doesn't make what she did right.  But it does show that she is conflicted between fear of what JWs can do to her and love for you.

You're right, this was all about HER.  The funeral is supposed to be about your Aunt and honouring her memory, not about your mom.  I'm wondering if this funeral is going to be a JW Infomercial since the JW family members seem to have commandeered the proceedings.  My guess is that it is, and that you were not informed sooner because they knew you would not allow her memory to be violated in that manner.

Renee: That is such a mean spirited thing for your mum to do! I understand why you are mad and sad. That is a natural reaction to being treated this way.

However, remember that she is enslaved to a cult. Pray for strength to live a life of supernatural love and forgiveness, remembering that but for the grace of God, you too would see life through WT eyes. I am just concerned that if you cut off all contact with her, you may miss an opportunity to help her leave the cult, or plant some seeds of doubt when she is having questions...

Very sorry on the loss of your aunt, it sounds like your mom is trying to punish you for leaving the JWs. 

Maybe you could visit her gravesite with flowers and have some closure on your own.

this is terrible..

its these kind of  things we face as ex jws that can never be made right and it sucks .

(((hugs)))