(((((Nina)))))
You ROCK, sweetie!
Such a sad, sad tale. I am glad that you are 'putting the blame where it squarely belongs!' (And your scripture use -- I actually looked up the citations ;) -- was telling.)
Might I suggest that you send the letters to the elders off a day later than those to everyone else, including the media? Let the gossip mill begin before the elders even have a chance to deal with their culpability. You might want to visit the KH at noon when the pioneers are eating lunch and leave copies pinned to the information board for those elders whose personal addresses are unknown to you.
Also, if you do care about things remaining quiet at your present congregation, perhaps you shouldn't name it freely here on the board. You might want to xxx out your full name, too, if you even care...
In loving admiration,
Brenda