If my son our daughter claimed some brother abused them, I would definitely sit them down, discuss what exactly happened and be able to get to the bottom of whether such allegations were true in my own mind.
If I were convinced that this person molested my child, I would go to that person first, the elders second and the authorities third. Though I say this after being out for almost two years. If I was still IN, and especially still an elder, I may very well keep it in-house to protect Jehovah's and the congregations reputation... and sadly this is what happens today. Such a mindset is what happens, IMO, when one fully believes that God has chosen the WT Society exclusively. As most JW's believe because this is what they hear again and again at meetings, literature, experiences, conventions etc.
If the elder body determined there was no case due to the lack of a second witness, and yet I was certain that my child was telling the truth, I would definitely tell other families about what happened to warn them.
How could you not?
If it is true that I would be counseled and likely disfellowshipped for even mentioning this as a kind warning, then I would have left the org at that time. NO DOUBT.
There should be no problems with discussing the "allegation" with another cong member. Especially if you say just that, it's alleged that this person molested my kid... just be careful.
If all of this is true, where you must keep quiet due to no second witness watching your kid be abused, even if you are certain they were abused, then that is one sorry policy.
I just never ran into this issue during my time on the body.
Thanks for sharing all this.
If I were convinced that this person molested my child, I would go to that person first, the elders second and the authorities third. Though I say this after being out for almost two years. If I was still IN, and especially still an elder, I may very well keep it in-house to protect Jehovah's and the congregations reputation... and sadly this is what happens today. Such a mindset is what happens, IMO, when one fully believes that God has chosen the WT Society exclusively. As most JW's believe because this is what they hear again and again at meetings, literature, experiences, conventions etc.
If the elder body determined there was no case due to the lack of a second witness, and yet I was certain that my child was telling the truth, I would definitely tell other families about what happened to warn them.
How could you not?
If it is true that I would be counseled and likely disfellowshipped for even mentioning this as a kind warning, then I would have left the org at that time. NO DOUBT.
There should be no problems with discussing the "allegation" with another cong member. Especially if you say just that, it's alleged that this person molested my kid... just be careful.
If all of this is true, where you must keep quiet due to no second witness watching your kid be abused, even if you are certain they were abused, then that is one sorry policy.
I just never ran into this issue during my time on the body.
Thanks for sharing all this.