Why not tell them NO! NO visits, no phone calls.
Since I have not been at the center of a JW witchhunt, I am curious why so many here let the dubs mentally persecute them. Why do you let them in your home? Can't you just ignore the door bell, get caller ID and when they come or call, ignore it. Don't answer. If they know you are home, even better.
I must admit, I did dive under my desk (which faces the street) when they came doing door to door work, about 1 year ago. I was suddenly terrified. Then I thought about it and realized that they cannot hurt me. My mother knows I am an apostate (and still wants a relationship) and since she is the only family I have had the last 20 years, I don't have a thing to lose if they DFd me tomorrow. I answered the door and gave them a hard time about the UN and women being in subjection.
I would be pissed that they said my name from the podium, however, when it comes down to it, I know they cannot hurt me. Since I grew up in Chicago, the likelyhood that they could even "hurt my reputation" is nothing. It is a big city and I never had contact with dubs outside of the KH. I never worked with any or saw them at the store.
I would ignore their calls or leave them a voice mail at the KH that said "Fucx off, leave me alone. I do not want to speak to you." "If you DF me or announce I am DAd I will sue you for libel." "My attorney's name is___________." I think that would shut them up.